HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY
— By Kevin Montgomery (@kevinmonty) |
Once upon a time I had a picture of my mom chugging a can of PBR and flipping off the camera (no joke). Unfortunately I couldn’t find it, so I think this picture is a hot 2nd place on the “Kevin, I’m going to fucking kill you” scale.
About a month ago, I finally learned that I was a mistake. During a conversation about how women with ticking timebombs for biological clocks terrify me, she offered up some reassurance: “Not all women really have the urge to have children. I didn’t really ever have the urge. I was getting my degree when I suddenly became pregnant with you and we just decided to roll with it.” “So I was a mistake?” “Oh, mmmm, yeah.”
I had known that my youngest sister was a mistake since forever ago. I was teasing her one day in my youth, “you really think you were planned? Get pregnant 6 months after I was born? On Valentine’s Day?” When confronted, my mom volunteered: “You were a planned mistaken.” “Planned?!” “Well, we planned to have another kid, just not quite then.” I really hope being bad at birth control isn’t hereditary.
Anyways, the reason I share this is because my mom was about a year away from getting her Ph.D, was a professor at Smith College and still “decided to roll with it.” She had a lot to lose. Hell, if I were married to a woman that close to getting tenure and a Ph.D, I would have kicked her down the stairs so she could go be the breadwinner and I could just still around, drink beer, watch Hulu, and keep this blog updated. But yeah, my mom gave up her pursuit of a Ph.D and ultimately tenure to raise my ass. I think that’s pretty big.